The woman has to have completely stopped looking for their soul mate. She has to be in a place where she is completely happy being by herself. Truly.
The man has to be in a place where he has made a decision to consciously look for his soul mate. He is in a place where he is ready for her.
The man would come to a place exactly at that time that he wants someone special in his life to share his life with, but wants someone who was truly happy and content within themselves.
That is the place I would try to get to.