Feeling dis-empowered in the face of adversity and criticism seems to be the MO for us.  When we get blamed for things at work or if our friends and relatives judge us for things we do, we tend to feel defeated, hurt and beaten down.  “Why is this happening to me?” we ask.

The answer though- as hard as it may be to take it- “Its NOT happening to you”  YOU are creating it. But one would wonder why would i be interested in creating misery, pain and suffering for myself.  It simply doesn’t make sense.  Well my dear, it may seem to be senseless but the TRUTH is that this pain and misery poses the potential for the greatest opportunity.

We are infinite beings… all on the journey to remember our magnificence. I cannot emphasize this enough.  So why the pain?  Think of it like this.  You are watching a play in the theater.  All characters are going along doing their business.  But there is a drama brewing in one area of the stage.  How do you propose we bring attentions to this section?…  SPOTLIGHT!!!  Pain is your higher selves spotlight to let you know, “Lookie we have a problem here.”

Its designed to shift your focus to the area which needs help.  Let me get into the specifics of the type of help pain is trying to flag- dissatisfaction with your progress, not being recognized for your efforts, feeling belittled, things not going your way.

It is important to remember you are creating your reality.  You already KNOW that all the joys, tribulations are your thoughts and actions manifest successfully.  i.e if you are happy in your job you will remember how well you manifested it by studying for the interview or aggressive networking, or by writing the most ridiculous but effective cover letter.  In short we have NOOO problems in accepting our gifts are a result of our creation.

Its when we are unsuccessful, we seem to outsource our responsibility.  We tend to think we are unfairly treated, misunderstood, wrongly accused and tend to either blame or feel guilt.  This is where your opportunity lies to realize that your are the creator EVERY aspect of your life, and once you see this you can CHANGE it.

Don’t judge yourself. Begin to say to yourself, “I will accept responsibility for all that I am involved in. I will accept responsibility for everything that happens to me. If I don’t like what is happening to me, I will begin to ask myself why I create things that I don’t like. Maybe it’s to get my attention about something so that I can change what is really not working for me that I cannot see.”

Having had some practice in guiding myself and others through this process… If you need assistance in nipping it in the bud, I am here to help.. www.blissinstinct.com

When life shines light onto areas that are overcast- heed to the opportunity and go deeper into the pain… and there in lies the opportunity to NEVER create the painful situation again.  Most often, the hidden pain is where the greatest light is.  We fear only our illumination nothing else.

A client asked me yesterday about Manifestation. He believed that there is no good or bad in creation. One may manifest power, money, importance, beautiful women, sex and lust. Or one may manifest a simple life, witha nice house in suburbia and nice kids and a kind wife. In essence you have the freedom to experimentwith creation and manifestation and it doesn’t matter what you manifest as it only validates you ability to create.

I have a lot to say on the subject, as I have been a habitual manifester since I was 15.For those that knew me, became only too familiar with how I conceive of a reality, build it, perpetuate it for a few years (sometimes months) and then let it dissipate. Only to start all over again. Most often this has involved moving to a new country or city. I loved this nomadic and transient lifestyle. But I also realized no matter how perfectly I built my reality of a blissful and fulfilling life, I would eventually come to a place where I would realize “this is not it” or “this was it only for the time being to learn something”. Off I went todream a bigger dream.

Then I came to realization that caused a complete paradigm shift. I started realizing the fact that I was creating at all was the problem. I noticed that people around me were manifesting their reality based on what they THOUGHT would bring them happiness. They were drawing on past experiences, their latent abilities and aptitudes, input from the media, educational indoctrination, expectations of friends and peers. Some were conscious of this and some are not. But everyone lived in a conceptual reality. But the truth- JOY cannot be conceptualized.

When we try to create our reality all we are trying to do inimplement systems of control. We want things to happen one-way and if it doesn’t we are disappointed by it. Also, we conclude that we are not very successful human beings, as we can’t get what we want. This in turn cuts us off to our innerjoy- and makes no mistake everyone has this joy and has felt it. Even in cases when we are successful in getting what we wanted, we end up disenchanted or underwhelmend by it in time and again feel cut off from joy. So how do we back to re-establishing that connection?

The quick answer is – We consciously stop manifesting. In other words, we have to stop living in a bubble(of a self made mental structure). To engage in a process where trust and faith take on a new meaning. We are living an interactive life and living in the bubble merely blocks us from intereacting with reality. Life has its own order. Everything in nature has it own purpose and with its purpose its destiny. Similarly, human beings are part of nature with a certain purpose. We evolve organically. So to let go of all inorganic perseverance, goals, and trails and settle into a natural state of being present in the moment, letting the flow of life guide you is where its at in my opinion.

How does one follow this flow of joy? This is different for every person as joy is not the same for all and neither is the path to get there. In addition we have to put in some workto undo some of the conditioning a programming that is in the way. I would be happy to help anyone that wants to know more about this and would like my assistance.

Question:  I can feel the bliss in my body when I tune in but I am not sure how to follow it.  My ego constantly seems to interfere.  How do I go deeper in following the sensations?

Answer: Surrender is one of the main tools for going deeper within the bliss instinct. We have many instincts that we use throughout the day, many of them for survival, such as instincts that prepare us for fight or flight. However the bliss instinct helps us recognize what brings us joy so that we don't just survive, we thrive. Simply put, following the bliss instinct lead us to happiness.